Sex = good, doing Kegels = good (or at least, you know, good enough) but combining Kegels + sex = infinity plus one level amaaaaaazing. Tightening your Kegels during sex is a huge flex (literally and just sexual superpowers-wise) and can increase your pleasure during sex. There’s the myth that doing Kegels means you’ll feel tighter to any penis-having partner that might come your way, but the true bennie to Kegels is that it gives you greater control over your pelvic floor, allowing you to be more in touch with your bod. Engaging your Kegel muscles will help you feel more relaxed if you suffer from painful sex,, increase your blood flow and arousal and give you stronger and more intense contractions during orgasm (yes, please).
Not only can it help pleasure-wise, but strengthening your pelvic floor is also good for all kinds of mildly scary practical reasons, ie, keeping important body parts like your uterus back up in your body where it’s supposed to be (google “uterine prolapse,” if you’re feeling brave), not peeing in your pants when you’re olden and such.
If you and your Kegels are not yet engaged, here’s an exercise routine to help you get acquainted.
The basic move is:
1. Stop peeing mid-flow without using your butt, ab or thigh muscles.
2. Yay, you just did one Kegel. Retain this wisdom for later for when you have some off time, in the car, in bed, watching Netflix yet again, etc…
3. Whenever you have a free moment, squeeze your pee-stopping muscles (aka the PC or pubococcygeus muscles.) Try holding for 10 seconds. Aim for sets of 10 or 20, three times a day.
4. Wait to unleash your powers on a mate.
When you find said mate, try these positions to feel the magic of Kegels:
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The Banana Hammock
Have your partner slide a finger inside your vagina, curling it up so it’s rubbing along the top wall of your vagina and rocking their hand, up and in, kind of like the rhythmic swing of a hammock. Tighten your PCs as they slide up and in, release as they slide a little out. Rub your clit at the same time so the sensations are partly your control, partly your partner’s–the combo of expected and unexpected is extra good.
The Pre-Game Warm Up
If you’ve been soloing with a Kegel trainer that gives you vibey feedback as a “good job!” sexual gold star, try a workout right before you’re with a partner to get your blood flow going and amp your arousal. If you’re liking it, leave it in, and squeeze around the toy while you mount your partner’s face and (carefully) thrust against their mouth.
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The OMG So F-ing Tight
Get in doggie but press your legs tightly together between your partner’s. Squeeze around their penis or strap-on on alternate strokes. To make things even tiiiiiighter, slide a butt plug in your bum as well. (If you’re more of a frontal kind of person, a clit vibrator is a great add-on too)
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The Deep Dive
There’s no reason you can’t try Kegels during sex with your own damn self. They’ll make a regular ole dildo feel extra sexy, or you can go with a specialized toy like an egg vibrator that also stimulates your clit. Squeezing around something can give you deeper-feeling orgasms, especially if you keep squeezing through them.
In positions where your legs are spread super wide, enhance the P-in-V contact by harnessing the power of Kegels. Try it during a woman-on-top position where you’re kinda squatting over your partner. Squeeze your Kegels rhythmically, like you’re pulsing around their penis. If they can still see while their eyes are rolled back in their head, their hands will be free to press a toy or rub a lube-y hand against your clit.
The Pulsing Lotus
Your male partner has probably discovered that they can also squeeze their Kegels and make their penis dance a little, but did they know they can do it when they’re inside you? It’s not great for a hard, fuck-me-now type of deal, but it’s amazing during an intimate face-to-face position. Don’t move for a moment while they flex/pulse their penis deep inside you. In that moment, it’s just you two and OMG, the throbbing. If you’re with the right person, it can feel pretty f*cking magical.
A set of Kegel or Ben Wa balls inserted into the vagina during oral adds a feeling of fullness and a whole ’nother level of pleasure. To build up anticipation, you or your partner can put them in ahead of time—they’ll make it hard to think of anything else. Or go even further, fun-torture-wise, and invest in a vibrating set that can be operated via remote.
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The Double Squeeze
For a super-tight feel and more stimulation where you need it, squeeze your legs together during missionary. The motion here is less an in-and-out and more a slow grind—tilt your pelvis down so your vulva is sliding along the top side of their shaft. As you move, squeeze your Kegels in long, slow contractions—it’ll feel like you’re hugging their penis.
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