But can it also help with sex? Maybe??? Regular weed, the kind with THC, activates the sexual arousal part of the brain. But hemp-derived CBD is different than full-on weed, it won’t get you high, but it is more accessible–CBD products are available in all 50 states. (Topicals with THC are only legal in medical and adult-use states like California and Colorado.)
CBD stans say that it increases blood to fun sexual parts like your vagina, clitoris and bum where increased blood flow = deeper arousal. And if you have sexual pain, the anti-inflammatory aspects can help as well. CBD doesn’t seem to do much for penises (get on that, men’s right activists) but it works just fine on male bums.
While the hard science isn’t yet there on all things weed, there’s plenty of anecdotal research. In my unscientific personal trial (you are so welcome), the CBD arousal gels seemed to the best at being arousing. And according to another highly unscientific study in which some dedicated Cosmo staffers tried CBD gummies, they chilled the eff out, which is v. helpful if you have a brain that likes to send you unhelpful random thoughts during sex.
There are some for sure things that are inherently good about adding a CBD elixir to sex. One is that it’s just something different so it helps you anticipate what’s gonna go down. There’s also the ritual of applying it, and how you super notice what’s going on with your body. (ie Is my junk high?? Answer: no.) Plus a lot of them require at least 15 minutes to take effect—time well spent rubbing it in, kissing, more rubbing it in, etc… Yes, we should all be doing this stuff all the time—taking time, noticing, much rubbing, but CBD oils kind of help enforce it.
Tied Wide Vibe CBD Sex Position
Give your partner a deliciously torturous build up by binding them to allow them to submit to the experience. (And vice versa– this so works on you too.) “Apply CBD infused oil directly to the clitoris, and allow the oil to take affect for 10 to 20 minutes,” suggests Diana Urman, PhD, LCSW, certified sexologist and Sex and Relationships therapist, licensed psychotherapist.
“Meanwhile, gently start massaging her outer labia, and work your way to the clitoris while the oil starts penetrating the skin to increase blood circulation and the level of arousal. Then, take your favorite vibrator and begin gently stimulate the areas surrounding vulva starting with the inner thighs and continue to the clitoris, proceeding, if desired, with penetrating her vaginal opening for the ultimate pleasure. This position allows for a slow build up of arousal, deliberate and titillating tease with no resistance, and the possibility of increasing orgasmic ability due to the level of relaxation induced by the CBD infused oil.”
Shop Now High on Love CBD Arousal Oil, Babeland, $50
The Super Soaker
Do some sex + skincare multi-tasking with a soak in a warm tub infused with sexy luxe CBD oil laced with exotic scents like Elemi and Himalayan Cedarwood. Sit between your partner’s legs and they can give you a slippery handie reacharound or charm you with a waterproof (f-ing important!) toy.
Use a product from a legit maker who specializes in skincare and you will not only leave the tub with an orgasm or two, but an ultra-relaxed body and “soothed, rejuvenated, silky soft skin,” says Janet Schriever, owner of Code of Harmony.
Shop Now Alchemy Lux Body Oil Serum, Code of Harmony, $56
Smooth Reverse Cowgirl
Haven’t quite figured out the logistic of reverse cowgirl? “When you’re on top, things are straightforward enough, but the angles you’re working with in reverse cowgirl can be tricky,” say Kate Miller and Anna Duckworth’s, co-founders of Miss Grass. “The same angles that make it *so great* can also cause some unpleasant pressure if you’re not careful. For us, Smooth Operator solves this problem. You (or your partner) just apply a couple pumps while you’re in position and let it ride. The soft, supple texture of aloe vera and soothing CBD makes finding and keeping a comfortable rhythm easy. Feeling that peak comfort means you can quite literally lean in to this power position confidently, and find your way to peak pleasure.”
Shop Now Quim Smooth Operator Serum, $48, Babeland
The Cannabis Cowgirl
Be more chill in cowgirl with warm CBD oil. “Slowly lean back onto your partner’s legs, keeping them inside you and encouraging them to warm some Simple Jane Temptress Topical Aphrodisiac oil on their fingertips to gently apply to your nipples, working their way down to your clitoris,” says Chelsea Hamilton, cofounder and sales director for Simple Jane. “The warming quality of the oil will heighten arousal and blood flow to these sensitive areas, as the CBD works to relieve tension and enhance the experience.”
SHOP NOW Temptress Oil, $45 at Simple Jane Co.
The Blunt Orgasm
The biggest, most elusive orgasm for many women is the what we call the G-spot but is really the female prostate,” says Kiana Reeves, director of communication of Foria. What to do? Sex massage! Have your partner rub some Awaken intimate massage oil onto the labia, the clitoris, and inside your vagina. “When you use it with yourself or with a partner, take the time to massage it in and allow it to absorb–15 to 20 minutes–because that’s what’s going to enhance your sensations and your capacity for pleasure,” Reeves says. Just lie back and enjoy while your partner curls a finger or two and massages the top wall of the vagina, adding extra clit stim if you’re feeling it. “The more gentle and continuous the touch is, the more the sensations are enhanced,” Reeves adds.
SHOP NOW Awaken Natural Arousal Oil, $48 at Foria.
The Stoned ‘n’ Boned
Cannabis products don’t do a ton for penis-havers, but they can ease the way for anal—either giving or receiving. Insert a Foria Explore suppository anally, then insert a butt plug. “Cuddle, kiss, and have yummy affectionate touch for 10 to 15 minutes, then remove the butt plug,” says Ashley Manta, sex and relationship coach at CannaSexual. “Using LOTS of lube, take deep breaths and intentionally relax your body. Super duper slowly, the receiver lowers themselves down on the penetrating partner. If it hurts, something is wrong. Slow down and do more warmup or stop altogether.”
The receiver gets to control the pace and depth of the penetration while the suppository increases pleasurable sensation and reduces discomfort without numbing. (Note: “Oil degrades latex, so be sure to use a non-latex barrier like nitrile or polyurethane for safer sex needs,” cautions Manta.)
SHOP NOW Explore Rectal Suppositories (prices vary based on retailers) at Foria.
The Slippery Spoon
Turn a morning cuddle into something more serious with cannabis-infused Night Moves Intimate Oil, recommends the badass Cyo Nystrom, CEO and cofounder of Quim Rock. “Wait for that to kick in, then slip into the little-spoon position.”
You’ll feel the vasodilating effects that increase blood flow to sex organs, natural lubrication, and sensation, she says. “What starts as a snuggle sesh can quickly escalate to a full-blown morning romp with many other positions.”
SHOP NOW Night Moves Intimate Oil (prices vary based on retailers) at Quim.
The Insomniac’s Release
Can’t sleep but don’t want to wake your partner? Head to another room for porn and a sleep-inducing orgasm, recommends Nystrom. “I’m here for a good time, not a long time, so I apply our fast-acting, cannabis-infused Oh Yes! Latex-Safe Serum despite the fact that no condoms will be necessary for a solo sesh,” she says. “Oh Yes! takes 3-7 minutes to kick in, giving me just enough time to sift through a few jarring videos that are def not my cup of tea before finding something that’ll do the trick.
Hopefully, my trusty LELO vibrator is not out of battery because there is nothing worse than getting **almost there** to have your companion flatline.” Preach.
SHOP NOW Oh Yes! Latex-Safe Serum (prices vary based on retailers) at Quim.