There are just a few basics that need to be explored when you first start dating someone. Where is he from? What does he do for a living? Oh, and most definitely, when’s his birthday? This isn’t just for remembering when to send that “happy bday :)” text! Knowing a potential boo’s zodiac sign can really help in understanding his behavior. Astrology helps us break down personality traits, pet peeves, and, yes, even dating patterns. It can be fun and informative to look up his sign, and how yours works with his.
For guys born under the sign of Cancer, there sure is a lot to know. So, if you’ve found yourself smitten with a man born between June 21 and July 22, look no further! Behold the comprehensive guide to navigating him.
The Cancer Basics
Birthday: June 21-July 22
Type: Cardinal water sign
Keywords: Emotional, nurturing, protective, intuitive, sentimental
Famous Cancer Men: Daniel Radcliffe, Tom Hanks, Jaden Smith, Post Malone, Nick Offerman, Milo Ventimiglia, Jacob Elordi, Chris Pratt
Best Matches: When it comes to a perfect match for Cancer, Scorpio easily takes the cake. The two water signs share emotional compatibility and similar values when it comes to security, trust, and commitment. Taurus is another great match for Cancer—both are slow-moving, loyal, and love to get comfy and cozy. The Moon’s fave sign is Cancer, but its second fave is Taurus, so they share that lunar connection as well.
Cancers will need to compromise when it comes to connecting with Gemini and Aquarius. Cancers tend to be introverted and secure, and Gemmys are super social and unpredictable. These contrasting traits could make a Gemini feel restless. Aquarians think with their head, not their heart—the opposite of emotional Cancer. But as with all signs, a little bit of conscious teamwork can create a healthy and loving partnership.
SEX WITH A CANCER:
Let’s just say sex with a Cancer will always feel like an intimate affair. Their intuitive nature makes for a satisfying time between the sheets. Cancer men find enjoyment in fulfilling your every desire, thanks to their extreme sensuality and giving nature. Yep, they’re excellent at oral. But if you want to mix things up, you’ll have to explicitly tell him, since Cancers can be a bit shy in bed if not encouraged.
All About Cancer:
As the first water sign of the zodiac, Cancer is intuitive and sensitive, and as a cardinal sign, he’s motivated to make intimate emotional connections that promise to last. At first, this shy guy probably can’t even look your way without blushing and turning away. He’s prone to overthinking things and might not be able to approach you, but if you make the first moves, he’ll hold on tight and do anything for you. Cancer is incredibly nurturing, committed, and protective of his loved ones, and does everything in his power to make sure you’re comfortable and feel safe with him. Sometimes Cancer men can come off as distant or sarcastic, but this is only a result of constantly feeling like they have to conceal their true emotions in society. This outward identity hides a man who is affectionate, gentle and sentimental.
Your Cancer boy is the king of cuddle puddles. He’s ruled by the Moon, which in astrology represents feelings and one’s inner self. As a result, he’s sweet, romantic, and a total softie. The crab is often considered one of the most sensitive signs of the zodiac, so basically he’ll do everything with love in mind, which makes for an incredibly romantic and magical partner.
If you like to spend quiet evenings with your boo on the couch, watching Netflix and resting your head on his shoulder, look for a Cancer! He loves to spend time at home as opposed to lots of traveling and socializing. Crabs live in their shell, and carry their home on their back wherever they go. They’re slow-moving critters, too. Your Cancer man is the same—he’s a homebody, and a relationship with him moves along gently and steadily, with no alarms or surprises. He’s a nurturer and will take care of everyone he cares about, especially his partner. In fact, he tends to have a blind spot for his lover and easily overlooks their flaws.
Being a water sign, there’s an abundance of emotion in his soul and he needs to feel comfortable enough to express his feelings with you. He takes trust and commitment very seriously, needing a lot of reassurance and open communication. Sure, he’s a great listener and is amazingly receptive, but actively expressing his own emotions isn’t the easiest. Without encouragement from you, he can keep his feelings bottled up. But if you invite him to open up, he’ll share a rainbow of emotions with you! He’s typically attracted to people who are just as empathetic as he is, and who have a deep emotional understanding. He’ll feel your highest highs and lowest lows right along with you, with the same amount of intensity, too.
Cancer wants a relationship that feels like home, so there’s a certain amount of security he requires. Hookups aren’t really his thing, because he knows that if he’s physically intimate with someone, he catches feels quick. And, in general, it’ll take you a while to get out of the talking phase with him, but once he feels safe, he’s committed. He’ll shower you with gifts and make it known to the world how much he loves you, especially to his family and friends. That means a ton of PDA, so expect hand holding and neck kisses, both in private and in public. Old school charm and chivalry lives on through Cancer men. Wining and dining, and Netflix and chillin’ are his go to date nights, in which he’ll give you his undivided attention and likely hype you up with extensive compliments. Sexually, he’s a true romantic above anything else, and looks for intimate and erotic moments to get him going. Sex is slow, with lots of body contact and emotional connection, mirroring the overall relationship. He is dedicated to pleasing you (expect lots of oral and orgasms).
He’s a traditionalist and passionate, so a Cancer man in love will have marriage and family on his mind before all else. As a father, he’s very involved in his kids’ lives and holds family values close to his heart. He’ll do anything to provide for his family and keep the peace in the household. Cancer men have a laser-focus work ethic, and like all things in their life, are very loyal to their work and co-workers. Don’t be surprised if your Cancer man develops a deep connection and friendship with his colleagues. He legit just can’t help his caring and supportive personality. But beware, sometimes they can overwork themselves and as a result will feel emotionally unstable for long periods of time.
Of course, this abundance of emotion can backfire when he’s not in a good mood. His sensitivity and need for assurance can make him really needy and draining at times. And yes, while his commitment to you is obviously a huge plus, the flip side to that is it can turn to clinginess, which is likely due to a low self-esteem and insecurity. You might struggle to do anything by yourself, and when you address it, he might take it the wrong way and think you just don’t like him. It’s common for him to cling and obsess over you or really any situation for that matter. He’ll always want answers, since it’s hard for him to let go of something that bothers him. A possible solution? Look for a Cancer who has a strong passion or hobby outside of his relationships (a good rule of thumb for all partners, TBH).
He’s consumed with nostalgia, which can be sentimental, but more often than not it comes off as remembering his former glory days. He can be negative and want to live in the past of “how it used to be.” Sometimes this can lead him to channel his creative side, in order to make up for what has been lost. But on the flip side, he can develop a fear of progression and change that will ultimately leave him stuck in what once was.
He also can get very passive and quiet. He’ll follow your lead and is very compliant in providing you with what you want, but won’t speak up if he feels neglected (even if his feelings of being ignored are just a wistful by-product of his eternal moodiness). Instead, he recedes further into his shell, and if you aren’t able to coax him out fast enough, he might lash out with those claws of his.
And while he’s not normally unpredictable in his actions, Cancer men can have major mood swings. He can go from friendly and loving to bitter and reserved, and you may never know why. Unfortunately, wounded and damaged feelings are difficult to heal and he can spend a lifetime holding onto a grudge against someone.
This guy has a lot of walls and only lets them down when he’s 100 percent sure he can trust you, so open up! When he’s ready to go to the next level in your relationship, he will, but pushing him out of his comfort zone in any way is a big no-no. If you’re together, he’ll put his heart in your hands, so be extra careful with it! Ragging too much on the parts of himself he’s insecure about is a surefire way to start drama. He’s full of love and will forgive you, but a Cancer never forgets. If you two are in love, he will be loyal, and be your best friend forever. He’s the type of guy you know you can always rely on and he’ll always be there to lend a hand to whoever may need it. If you’re looking for someone who you can be extra, unabashedly cheesy with, he’s your lobster, er, crab.
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